WHEN YOU DON'T FIT IN THE BOX
Updated: Jul 23, 2020
I don’t fit in to a category or box. You can’t really label me or what I do. My family don’t really ask about my work, they don’t really know what to ask or how to ask.
The other day I was in the bank opening a new business account (it was time to move banks!) and it came to the part where they needed to categorise what my business was. Is there a category for Coach? Nope. Mentor? Nope. Consultant? Are you an Engineer? No. Oh, there’s only Consultant categories for Engineers. Right.
This went on for about 10 mins. I’m pretty sure I ended up in a category of “Other”…
Now don’t get me wrong, I hate labelling. I actually hate anyone, including myself, being put in to a box. Especially given the work I do (ironically). I hate that the world thinks this is what it has to do. That this is the only way we are identified.
The kids books bother me so much -
This is a doctor. He helps you when you are sick.
This is a police officer. He helps you stay safe
This is an accountant, he looks after your money.
Why is it that when we ask our kids what they want to be when they grow up, they literally say:
Or any other categorised job in which they have to complete a degree and be employed?
Again, putting the next generation in to a box.
Don't get me wrong, I respect these professions and I'm grateful for them. But why don't we ask children how they want to make an impact on the world, what they would change, what lights them up and excites them or what their message is to share with the world rather than "What do you want to be when you grow up?"
By the time I was 18 I was still looking for a categorised career, wondering why none of them seemed appealing.
Sometimes I wish I had a profession whereby when someone asked me “What do you do?”
(which doesn’t happen very often these days, mainly because peoples subconscious bias is that because my husband is an Engineer and is employed, I don’t have to work, and that I dont, cause I take care of the kids. Cause doing work online isn’t work. Or isn’t a credible source of work. Yes people still think this. Unless you are employed or have a bricks and mortar business, it’s not real. Don’t get me started on that one…)
I can just whip out a well known profession so everyone understands what I do and it’s easy for everyone and we can move one.
Cause how do you explain to someone that I blog everyday sharing my message and thoughts, attract clients on the internet through that, create online programs and work one on one with Mums to help them kick butt in business with soul? Helping them feel strong and powerful and never compromise on their message?
Well I suppose that’s exactly how you do say it….
But imagine saying that at Sunday lunch.
Cause when you say things like that, people still look at you like you are a little mad. Even in today’s age, in 2020. When everything is done online and over the internet.
Sometimes I really wish I was I had a “box” to hang out in. Sometimes I wish I could just be conventional, in a "real job". It would feel safe and I wouldn’t stand out, wouldn’t be different. People wouldn't think I was a little crazy for the things that actually make up who I am.
But then I know I would scream and shout and punch my way out of said box.
I would be unhappy and my soul would die.
So I’m gonna be over here. Outside the box. I’m gonna own it and encourage other Mum’s who feel the same as me to be brave enough to stand outside the box as well.
I’m going to lead the way.
It’s what I feel I am here to do.
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